“I know well the delectable thrill of moving into a new house somewhere altogether else, in somebody else’s country, where the climate is different, the food is different, the light is different, where the mundane preoccupations of life at home do not seem to apply and it is even fun to go shopping.” –Jan Morris
So you are thrilled about the new place you have found. Almost everything is in proximity to it—the school, the offices and even the major shopping malls. You have made the decision to move months ago and though you know moving can be quite stressful for everyone; the transition would hit the kids the hardest.
Undoubtedly, kids like consistency and thought they are not exactly resistant to a change in scenery, they are much more accustomed to familiarity. This is especially hard for grown up kids who have already established friendships and relationships in your existing neighborhood and unsurprisingly, they would throw tantrums the moment you make an announcement and for a while, may even resent you. This is a typical reaction; however, you may want to find ways to make the move less of a stress and less of a shock to your children. Regardless of whether you are moving into a condo unit east gallery place of a residential one, appease them with the simple ways below.
1.) Break it to them gently and get them ready
Give your kids at least a month to get used to the prospect of moving by letting them know about the move at least a month in advance. This will give them adequate time to process the information and think about what sort of changes would happen. Additionally, to help make the move easier, give them a tour of their new home and show them the things that they might potentially like such as the playground, the park and some of the things that you think they might love. This will enable them to be a bit more receptive and even excited for the big move.
2.) Be patient
Even preparing them for the move adequately would not be sufficient to make them fall in love with their new home overnight. You would need to give them ample time to let the reality of the move sink in. Experts believe that children could take at least six months to get used to new routines and surroundings. In this period, be prepared for tantrums and sadness. If they are separated from people who have been with them in your old homes, help them adjust by regularly letting them call those people they left behind.
3.) Stick to beloved routines
The transition that comes with your new move might affect some of your old routines, but that does not mean that you should forget all of them entirely. Make the move easier by continuing habits such as game nights, family dinners, storytelling sessions, etc. would be reassuring to them that things have stayed the same despite moving away.
4.) Give them a voice
Your kids are part of the family, and they would like to think that their opinions matter as well. Give them the opportunity to voice out their concerns about the move or their opinions as regards this. Make them feel like they are part of the decision-making process by letting them choose the color of their bedroom, the kind of family pet the family should have, etc.
5.) Create opportunities for your kids to meet new friends
A definite way to make your kids more open, more receptive or even excited about the move is to create opportunities for them to make friends. Every time you do an ocular visit to oversee the progress made into your new homes, take them to meet some of your neighbors who might have kids in the same age group. Introduce them to each other and allow them to play together. Alternatively, you can also sign them up for recreational activities where they can find kids who share the same interests thereby boosting their confidence and making you worry less.